A big news story in Britain in recent days has been a conversation between Lady Susan Hussey (83), a close friend of the late queen, and an activist from Hackney, Ngozi Fulani, the founder of a charity supporting victims of domestic abuse, at an event hosted by the Queen Consort, Camilla. The controversy surrounds questioning by Lady Hussey as to where Ngozi Fulani was "from", who "her people" were. I was discussing this incident with my friend last night (who, I should say, like me, is a straight, cisgender, white, middle-aged male). So far, the public has only heard one side of the story. The narrative is one of residual racism in the royal family and the misconception that Ngozi Fulani was in some way "not British". It may well be that Ngozi Fulani deserves an apology. But maybe there is another side to the story as well. We do want to be a society that includes people from all backgrounds and puts them at the centre. But there are backgrounds. That